Embracing our demons without fear might mean breaking that bond that kept us tied to them in the first place. Want it or not, you are inextricably tied to your enemy. Hatred, bitterness, resentment, fear are the ties. Embracing your enemy with love and forgiveness, particularly since we're talking about an inner enemy, means cutting that tie. It also means integrating the shadow part of you, that part you never liked and always denied, learning the valuable lesson it has to teach you and moving forward with your life. In modern coaching and psychology, this approach is now widely used, as we know that people’s undesirable habits usually have “secondary gains” - hidden benefits that, when they are understand an honoured, the person can finally let go of the negative behaviour and replace it with a healthier one.